SAYING GOODBYE TO MY FUTURE DAUGHTER

One typical day in our chaotic household which some of you already know consist of two very active and demanding boys. Miguel was asking me to get his Honda Freed and Nissan Serena toy while Jaime was crying asking for his Toyota Galaxy toy. As I was frantically searching a pile of metal cars, my mom suddenly told me; “who would have thought you’d have two boys!” 

She was totally right.. who would have thought!? When I was single I always imagined I’d have little girls, prim, proper and dolled up little girls! I have two sisters; I never knew how it was to live with boys.  Now, each of my sister has a girl! I think someday I too want to have a daughter! 

I truly believe God has a plan for each and everyone of us and that everything happens for a reason. I’ve always been asked if I want to go for baby number 3. I would always say; “I’m still waiting.” I really truly feel I will have another boy! It’s not that I don’t want another son, in fact I think I shocked an aunt recently when I told her I no longer want to have a daughter. She was quick to ask.. WHY!? I simply said I feel it’s too dangerous out there in the real world to raise a daughter. That I’d die worrying about her and that it would be logistically difficult and challenging for us to raise a daughter. IMAGINE THAT!

Veegee and I adore and love these boys! A third one whether a boy or a girl will surely be a welcome and pleasant surprise! 

Sometimes I’d wonder how different it would be to raise a girl, will a daughter fart as much as Miguel? Would  a daughter be as sweet as my little Jaime and chase after me just so she could kiss my feet, just like he does! Will a daughter pick her nose as much as my two boys does? Will she like Miguel; growl at me when she doesn’t get her way?

I used to want to faint every time I’d see Veegee play a bit rough with the boys, now I find myself wrestling with them and carrying them upside down while they laugh hysterically. Boys seem easier to raise, they require less maintenance, are less fussy and they really truly know how to love their mothers!  

AM I A TERRIBLE MOTHER?

Being a mother of two very hyperactive boys isn’t easy. It’s a full time job and I never ever get a day off. Everybody’s your boss because they get to assess your performance depending on how your kids are turning out to be and behaving.

Sometimes I see moms who seem to know exactly what to do. They have kids who follow their every whim and they have children who are perfect, neat and organized. They behave so well it makes me wonder how they do it. I on the other hand seem to be doing things on a trial and error basis.

Veegee and I have done it all, prize charts, time outs, standing in the corner, silent treatment, loud treatment, diplomacy tactics, taking away all privileges and sad to say even spanking-- which we agreed we will never do again. If you know our boys personally you’ll know they are a handful and it takes an army to manage them.

I’ve thought about it long and hard and I’ve decided I am ready to admit that I am NOT a perfect mother, I may never be and I’m ok with that. We have our highs and lows sometimes even very low times where Veegee and I would agree that it’s best to just let it pass. We sometimes both lose our patience and are both clueless if we are doing the right things or not. Parenting can get very overwhelming! What’s great is we know we can never give up. I believe as parents we have an unlimited supply of do-overs and everyday will definitely be different.

With my boys! Miguel is 5 years old and Jaime is 3 years old.

As “imperfect” parents there are days (not everyday) we let our boys play all they want. They will only be kids once, we want them to enjoy and cherish every moment of it.

We let the boys play in the garden and in the rain! We sometimes even join them! :)

 My boys are picky eaters! I’ve tried it all like mashing up vegetables and fruits and sneaking them in together with the crispy chicken skin which they love to eat. They still won’t eat vegetables and fruits so we don’t force them. I figured they will eventually learn to eat healthy as they grow up.

Miguel is finally willing to try different kinds of vegetables and fruits! I decided to stop bugging him to eat; now he is curious and willing to taste almost everything!

MY BEAUTY RESOLUTIONS for 2014

The year is still fresh and we’ve no doubt made plenty of promises to ourselves about what we want to change with our lives. Instead of focusing on life resolutions I decided to mix things up a bit! I  present to you my BEAUTY RESOLUTIONS for 2014! 

Change in life-long habits can be quite difficult but small changes for the sake of our health and beauty are easier to achieve, so here it goes: MY BEAUTY RESOLUTIONS for 2014

1.     To stop buying beauty products I still have! Such as lipstick, lip gloss and BB Creams! I promise not to buy new ones unless I’ve finished all that I have on hand! This will require great will power but I know I can do this!

My BB creams! I love all of them but I need to stop buying new ones, I will finish all of these first! :)

2.     To experiment with makeup more. Finally find the courage to wear that wine colored lipstick or the orange lippie I’ve had for quite awhile. I might as well try new looks now while I still can. Experimenting won't be as cool when  I'm already in my 50's. 

 3.     To moisturize more! I always moisturize my face but I always forget or I’m too lazy to moisturize my body! I feel adding this important step to my daily routine will improve my skin and will help slow down the aging process.

The best BODY MOISTURIZERS!

4.     To increase my water intake! WATER is the best and the most effective and affordable beauty secret there is! I will try my best to drink two liters of fresh water every day to flush toxins out of my body and keep my skin looking soft, supple and healthy. 

I've been using my KOR water bottle for more than a year now and I love it! Even IRON MAN loves it!! I just need to bring it along with me more often. :)

5.     Go back to DRY BODY BRUSHING- To Use a body brush for just a few minutes before my morning shower  to shift cellulite, improve blood flow and exfoliate my skin. The sweeping action of the dry brush helps lift impurities and stimulates circulation, which helps speed up the release of unwanted toxins from inside the body.

Choose an all natural detachable DRY BODY BRUSH, this will make your skin glow!!! :)

Always brush the skin when it's dry, as wet skin becomes more sensitive.  Start by working up from the feet, using long, firm strokes - always brushing in the direction of the heart. This worked so well for me a few months back but I eventually got lazy; I plan to include it once more in my daily routine!

6.     Just like everyone else I plan to exercise more! I believe this will require divine intervention! But I really want to do this not just for me but for my kids. I want to spend more healthy years with them! Not doing any form of exercise won't increase my chances of living longer and being a healthier me for my family. I need to do this!